Back to the Basics Without the Guilt, Doubts, and Self-Criticisms!

One important reason I decided to start this blog is because of the many stories I've heard from moms who think they aren't good enough. And yes, I have been there! There have been times I've thought that every other mom at the park had it WAY more together than I did. But I'm happy to say that I'm feeling MUCH better about mommyhood now.

I realized that every mother is different, and we just have to learn to accept ourselves. You have to be yourself and celebrate what you like doing and what works for YOU. For me, as a new mom, it was a huge new role that I didn't feel I quite understood. Was I bad mom b/c I don't LIKE sitting in a huge sand pit with toddlers? Was I bad mom b/c I need some quiet time alone each day? Could I balance protecting my child against growing her into an independent woman? Did I need a new mommy wardrobe? Everyone has different likes and dislikes, and I found I just needed to incorporate those things into day-to-day life and let the rest go.

Balance is really important and everyone talks about it. For me, being a part-time library consultant and a part-time stay-at-home mom is the right balance for me at this time in my life. When darling daughter is in school that might change. At this point, I would go insane if I were a full time stay-at-home mom and I would go insane if I worked full-time. With a little of each, I appreciate my child and my work a lot more. For another woman, another balance is best, and that is what is right for her. This whole debate about working or not working as a mother just demeans us, not just as women but as basic people. And sometimes, of course, there is no choice about whether we can decide to not work--bills have to paid. But an unhappy mother, unfulfilled mother doesn't help a family.

There are some parts of motherhood I feel I'm really good at, and other parts that I am still striving towards. And there are some times that I have to rely on others to fulfill my dauthter's needs.

Most mothers do the best they can, and I really feel that by trying to keep the basics in mind, we can have the balance we need. Focusing on love, health, fun, learning, and on how we can help our children become the best people they can...that's Mommy Basics for me.

Number One Favorite Mommy Basic Product!

This Fisher-Price booster seat is my all time favorite baby product!

1) It saves space--no high chair to add to your room. It fits on to every kind of chair I've tried. We just use our regular dining chair.
2) Clean-up is sooo easy, it just wipes off or you can put the tray in the dishwasher. The seat is all one piece and there are no seams or crevices for food to get stuck in or fabric to get stained.
3) It is highly portable. We take it to restaurants or on trips. Lightweight too!
4) It's safe. The seat has a three-point seatbelt that adjusts, so it can accomodate a growing baby and toddler. As they grow, you can convert it into a plain booster seat as well.
5) Kids love it. The tray is handy not just for food, but also for toys, and crayon marks wipe right off. Our daughter LOVES it and will sit happily for a good long meal with us. What could be more BASIC than a family eating a meal together.
6) The price is great!

We have one at Grandma's and now at Auntie's. I wish all restaurants carried this instead of those said wooden ones that are groddy AND enable table cloth snatching. There are three different height settings. This chair is inexpensive enough that you could even buy two and always keep one in the trunk of your car for going out.